Julia (psych0grl) wrote in shrink_ology,

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Unspoken words

Okay...so I just came back from italy where i met this guy named Marco. Now usually I'm very uncomfortable around guys...but after getting to know Marco within 10 days I began to notice that I was quite comofortable with him...and was actually begining to like him very much. I wouldn't say that I love him...for usually love doesn't come in 10 days...but I felt and still feel a very strong connection to him. I can tell that he's been hurt before, though, and I could tell that he didn't want to get close to me like that, even though we were practically inseperable on the tour and were closer than any of the other kids there. We taught each other songs on the piano...I even know his goddamn favorite cereal (french toast crunch hehe) but anyway...the very last day we said goodbye without revealing anything to each other. I was too scared to tell him anything and he didn't say anything to me. he doesnt go online much, but he did email me today which gave me some hope since he told me that he doesnt really keep in touch with too many people that he meets in or out of school. i want to tell him how i feel but i dont want to scare him and id much rather tell him in person. the problem is that hes 18, lives in pennsylvania (i live in new jersey), and hes going to college next year (im 16). i dont want to let go of something that could have been great.what should i do?
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Ah well it seems to me that you just had yourself a little romance. Not that the "little" means it's not the same as someone else had. But I myself had such a thing, and it's a great thing to explore when you can. It seems that your a levelheaded girl, simply because you realize love cant develop that quick. But infact you do see yourself having a strong connection to him. With this being said keep that intelligent mind of yours in check. He lives in pennsylvania, and you live in new jersey. Now per say you all go for the long distance thing. Do realize that long distance relationships never work out, and well its just emotionally draining on both ends. But if you cant take my word for it I say, you give him a call, or email him. Or you could simply let go of this thing you and him had. Keep in touch, and simply hope that you two meet again. Remember if fate see's it fit, you two will meet again. In the meantime you should meet other people, and have fun. Your sixteen, and still have 2 more years to have fun.
yeah, that's what is holding me back from getting too out of hand with this. and i do believe in fate to an extent. im definitely not giving up in any other chance that i may have for any other guy that i meet...but somehow i cant seem to let go of this either.
oh wow lol i was reading it and until i got to the end i was like 'oh damn does this guy LIVE in italy?' .. so when i got to him living in PA i knew what to say... anyway where's he going to college? i'd say build on it and work it slowly but i seem to the the fxck up of giving relationship advice lately. =\ soo yea. but i'd say keep talking to him, don't lose touch and see what happens.
I'm gonna tell you straight out that i don't think a realtionship like that could work out. NJ and PA arent too far from eachother but only one of you can drive and stuff. But i do say if you feel such a strong connection with this boy then you should be friends with him for sure. maybe then when the time comes you can evolve into somehting more when u go to college and such.

make sure you think carefully about your desicion so that you dont end up more hurt in the end.
Well, it's tough to say. I've never done the long distance relationship thing before. No matter what, I advise that if you and he connect so well, at least be friends. When you have feelings for someone, they're hard to ignore. It might be something you have to wait out, or it might be something you have to act on. That decision is for you to make. I don't believe in fate. I believe that if you want something, you've gotta go get it...but that's me, and my philosophy, and it may not be right for you. In the end, my advice is the plain and simple. Getting advice is good, but in the end it has to be your own feelings you act on and your own heart that you listen to, not ours. No matter what, good luck.

yeah...thanks for everyone who posted...i think that's what i will do...ill just wait it out and remain friends with him. if things get too overwhelming then ill tell him the next time i see him in person. =)